We all have habits we'd love to change or new ones we're eager to embrace. The battle with willpower is a familiar challenge in this process... whether it's sticking to a fitness regime, losing a few kilos, or resisting the urge to eat an entire chocolate block rather than just a piece.
We often start out with great enthusiasm, convincing ourselves that we're on track. But over time, we stumble. This leads to moments where we think, "I've slipped up today; I may as well quit." Before we know it, we're back to our old ways. But why does this cycle repeat? The answer lies in the unconscious mind. While our conscious mind controls only about 5% of our actions, it's the unconscious mind... shaped by our past experiences, upbringing, emotions, and habits - that governs the remaining 95%.
Comfort vs Change
Our brain is wired for comfort, relying on patterns that provide familiarity. Repeating actions reinforces this wiring, making those habits automatic. When we attempt change, even small changes, our brain resists, preferring to maintain the status quo. This is why it feels like swimming against the tide when we try to adopt new behaviours. Take something as simple as brushing your teeth - imagine switching hands and reversing the whole routine. It would feel awkward at first, forcing you to focus on every step. But if you persisted, over time, this new approach would also become familiar.
Navigating Change
So how do we create the changes we desire? It starts with becoming more aware of our internal dialogue and recognising our tendency to revert to the familiar.
To truly embrace change, we must learn to sit with discomfort and uncertainty. It can be challenging, but it's essential to accept and face these feelings rather than suppressing them. These emotions, though uncomfortable, are temporary, and it's important to remember that we’ve navigated similar feelings many times before.
This is where growth happens. With practice, our brain rewires itself, allowing us to evolve and learn. Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zones is key to avoiding stagnation and dissatisfaction.
"We must be learning if we are to feel fully alive. When life or love becomes too predictable and it seems like there is little left to learn, we become restless - a protest, perhaps."
Norman Doidge The Brain that Changes Itself
Embracing Growth
In our pursuit of change, acknowledging the power of our unconscious mind, accepting discomfort, and embracing the unfamiliar are vital. This path of self-awareness leads to personal growth and fulfilment, ensuring that we continue to evolve and learn throughout our lives.
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